The Love that Heals

I once saw a post that said, “I want a love so powerful that it heals my nervous system.”

The nervous system is our body’s communication network, it sends and receives messages between us, the outside world, and even within ourselves. But here’s the truth: if you don’t take time to heal your nervous system before receiving true love, it will distort the way you experience that love.

• Communication will feel like an attack.

• Protection will feel like insecurity.

• Peace will feel like chaos.

• Boundaries will feel like control.

• Green flags will look like red flags.

• And instead of secure attachment, you’ll find yourself anxious or avoidant, convinced that’s what “secure” feels like.

When I walked into my relationship, my nervous system was not healed. But because my partner and I chose patience, we were able to help each other grow in the areas where we were weak.

Many relationships with incredible potential never make it because one  or both partners haven’t worked through the aftermath of what trauma did to their nervous system.

I thank God for my partner. He is the only man who has ever truly understood my brokenness. Instead of walking away or getting frustrated, he leaned in, loving the diamond in the rough.

Prepare yourself for that kind of love. Because the truth is, many of us aren’t ready. All we’ve ever known is chaos, and we’ve mastered how to function in it. Healing prepares you to receive peace without mistaking it for danger.

-Chantelle aka Telle